Your first meeting with an estate planning attorney may seem a little daunting,
especially if youve never consulted an attorney before. Theres no need to
worry, however. This meeting is just a conversation in which your attorney will
find out about you, your family, and your goals. After youve shared this
information, your attorney will be able to recommend a range of estate planning
tools, helping you tailor a plan that meets your needs.
Getting to Know You
At the start of your consultation, your estate planning attorney will ask you
questions about you, your family, and your finances. Some of the areas of your
life that you may need to share about are those that can impact the type of
planning youll need to protect your assets and family, including:
- Whether you’re married,
- How many children and grandchildren you have,
- Whether youve had any previous marriages,
- Your age and the ages of the people in your family,
- What assets you own, the value of those assets, and how theyre titled,
- Whether you currently have a Will, a Trust, or other estate planning
- Which people you want to put in charge of your money, your children, and
other important aspects of your life in case you die or become disabled.
Sometimes, clients have personal situations they are hesitant to share with
anyone even their attorney. If this is your situation, the questions your
attorney asks may seem uncomfortable or intrusive. The reason these questions are
asked is so that your attorney knows what issues to anticipate. This way, he or
she can help you plan around them.
For example, you might be reluctant to talk about a child born out of wedlock
years ago. First and foremost, remember that the information you tell your
attorney will remain confidential unless you give permission to disclose it.
Second, the reason your estate planning attorney needs to know about this child
is to design a plan that accomplishes your goals. If you dont want that child to
receive part of your estate, your attorney needs to include language in your
estate plan disinheriting that child. Otherwise, he or she may be entitled to a
portion of your estate that youd planned to leave for your spouse or your other
Making the Right Choice
Your initial estate planning meeting is also a chance for you to decide
whether this particular attorney is a good fit for you. Youll want to find out a
little about your attorneys background and education, paying special attention
to whether he or she meets the states continuing education guidelines.
Organizations like the American Academy of Estate Planning Attorneys
(www.aaepa.com) require that their members meet continuing education requirements
that are often more stringent than the standards imposed by the state. You may
choose to begin your search for an attorney on their website.
You also want to be comfortable with your attorney. Does he or she put you at
ease? Do you get to do enough talking, or does your attorney cut you off or talk
over you? Do you feel that your questions are taken seriously and answered in a
way that you fully understand?
One of the best ways to ensure youve chosen the right attorney is to make
sure that youre comfortable talking to him or her and you feel that he or she
respects you and takes your concerns seriously.
Putting Your Plan in Place
After your attorney gathers all your information, he or she will review your
goals with you and discuss the best strategies for achieving those goals. The two
of you will agree on the appropriate strategies, and your attorney will put
together a set of documents that carries out these strategies. For example, your
attorney may draft a living trust to help you maintain control of your assets
during your lifetime, while keeping those assets out of probate at your death. He
or she may also draw up powers of attorney to designate who will make financial
and medical decisions for you, if you become unable to handle these matters for
Your attorneys job is to put together a plan that achieves your goals, and to
ensure you understand how it works. When you leave your initial meeting, you
should know the basic framework of your estate plan as well as the basic purpose
for each part of your plan. You should also know what to expect from the estate
planning process: the next steps and whose responsibility they are.
After you choose the right estate planning attorney and establish an estate
plan tailored to your needs, youll be able to breathe a sigh of relief knowing
your future is secure!